Comments on: Husbands Inability To Read Hurting Relationship?

By: Daniel S

Daniel S — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 17:42:18 +0000

My wife has a spending problem that I did everything in my power to break her from that habit. The result is her leaving me. My point is you are not going to change people they have to want to make the change for themselves.
My suggestion is to stop helping him read and write. It is more effective in getting him to want to change. He is relying on you to do his reading and writing for him so he doesn’t have to change

By: Scotty24

Scotty24 — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 12:41:26 +0000

Looking for a young stud who can read you bedtime stories????

By: Kevin R

Kevin R — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 06:18:01 +0000

I had a cousin like that .
nice guy but a real DA , and had a dead end job and no prospects for anything better due to his inability to read .
She got tired of it and left him .

By: Ginger Ninja

Ginger Ninja — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 03:18:24 +0000

Let’s try the seemingly impossible of talking to him about it. Just tell him that your marriage isn’t going to work if you just have to keep taking care of him.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 22:52:56 +0000

WOW… First of all you need have a serious chat w/ him and make him go to counseling, if he doesn’t follow plan and doesn’t want to better himself then u need to do some serious thinking… You DO NOT want to waste your life and live unhappily!!! Best Wishes!!

By: blessed mom

blessed mom — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 20:13:06 +0000

You cant make him change he has to want it for himself. Dont push him so hard just talk to him about why it is so important to you. It sounds like you are embarrassed of him and you need to love him for who he is not what you want him to be. Sorry and Good Luck

By: A Canadian

A Canadian — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 15:13:21 +0000

Perhaps your husband has a learning disability that has not been diagnosed previously. I can understand how this might be frustrating for you but I think you need to be more sympathetic to his plight. It would be very intimidating to start learning all over again as an adult..not impossible, but seriously intimidating. As for your son, both you and your husband can put a positive spin on this for him….a good example that hard work and an education are very important in life. But please don’t ever allow your child to look down at his father for his lack of education. Some very successful people have never gone even all the way through elementary school! Sometimes life is more about hard work and a good work ethic than credentials. these are valuable things your husband can still teach his child without having an education. His love for his son and the attention he gives will outweigh his shortcomings if you handle it right.