http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/ Tips and educational products that help Tue, 16 Nov 2010 03:10:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.3 http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/comment-page-1/#comment-7317 edward_s Tue, 02 Mar 2010 16:52:50 +0000 http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/#comment-7317 My guess is that if he really is smart then he recognises that he is in some way different to his friends. I assume he spends most of his time with average children. Being different is one thing most kids don't want to be. So it seems to me that the answer is to get him to spend more time with kids where some may be even smarter than he is. Making his life miserable over this problem wont help much and may well make him more resentful. By the way as a family do you have books available and items that will make him realise that serious things can be interesting. Most kids don't want to hear that I know so You have to do it in a cunning manner. Get him to find out about things that interest him. Expecting him to concentrate on his home work while you relax and enjoy yourself or even nag him isn't going to help. If he only likes pop music/sport and friends then you have a problem lol. Academic success isnt everything. One other possibility is that he is not as smart as he has been assessed as being, he cant keep up so he clowns about as a cover. My guess is that if he really is smart then he recognises that he is in some way different to his friends.
I assume he spends most of his time with average children.
Being different is one thing most kids don’t want to be.
So it seems to me that the answer is to get him to spend more time with kids where some may be even smarter than he is.
Making his life miserable over this problem wont help much and may well make him more resentful.
By the way as a family do you have books available and items that will make him realise that serious things can be interesting.
Most kids don’t want to hear that I know so You have to do it in a cunning manner.
Get him to find out about things that interest him.
Expecting him to concentrate on his home work while you relax and enjoy yourself or even nag him isn’t going to help.
If he only likes pop music/sport and friends then you have a problem lol.
Academic success isnt everything.
One other possibility is that he is not as smart as he has been assessed as being, he cant keep up so he clowns about as a cover.

]]> http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/comment-page-1/#comment-7316 starfade Tue, 02 Mar 2010 12:07:08 +0000 http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/#comment-7316 Maybe he needs more of a challenge. I know I found school work very easy and because of always being able to get top marks without trying I have a lot of motivational problems now, and often didn't bother with assignments till the last minute. You could talk to his teachers about putting him up another level perhaps. Also have you tried getting him thinking about what he wants to do when he's older, so he feels like he's working towards a goal. Maybe taking him to places he might find interesting like the planetarium or zoo and then talking about what jobs he could do with those interests. Maybe instead of taking things away you could reward him with a month of perfect homework completion he can start taking classes in something he's interested in, or get him something he really wants, so that he's actually working towards something. If he's not actually learning anything when he's doing his homework it must seem really boring and pointless to him. Maybe he needs more of a challenge. I know I found school work very easy and because of always being able to get top marks without trying I have a lot of motivational problems now, and often didn’t bother with assignments till the last minute. You could talk to his teachers about putting him up another level perhaps.
Also have you tried getting him thinking about what he wants to do when he’s older, so he feels like he’s working towards a goal. Maybe taking him to places he might find interesting like the planetarium or zoo and then talking about what jobs he could do with those interests.
Maybe instead of taking things away you could reward him with a month of perfect homework completion he can start taking classes in something he’s interested in, or get him something he really wants, so that he’s actually working towards something. If he’s not actually learning anything when he’s doing his homework it must seem really boring and pointless to him.

]]> http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/comment-page-1/#comment-7315 Anonymous Tue, 02 Mar 2010 08:20:43 +0000 http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/#comment-7315 Same problem here, I also have a 4th grader who is smart and doesn't"t apply himself either. Well after christmas break and he still didn't have a cellphone he asked what he have to do to get one for the summer. I told him he would have to apply him self more at school. Finish class work no grade lower than a B- and come home every day and finish his homework with out being asked, and so far so good. All his friends have cellphone so now he is working hard to get one for the summer. Same problem here, I also have a 4th grader who is smart and doesn’t”t apply himself either. Well after christmas break and he still didn’t have a cellphone he asked what he have to do to get one for the summer. I told him he would have to apply him self more at school. Finish class work no grade lower than a B- and come home every day and finish his homework with out being asked, and so far so good. All his friends have cellphone so now he is working hard to get one for the summer.

]]> http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/comment-page-1/#comment-7314 Mommy & Wife=life Tue, 02 Mar 2010 05:03:04 +0000 http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/#comment-7314 Maybe he should be pushed up a grade because it is to easy for him, or he's just getting at that age where he thinks ''Cool kids don't do homework" and he does half of it and tells you he completed it all. I'd go to his teacher and principal and have him get an Agenda book and the teacher writes all of the homework/assignments scheduled for that night. I guess he's just bored..and needs challenging work. Maybe he should be pushed up a grade because it is to easy for him, or he’s just getting at that age where he thinks ”Cool kids don’t do homework” and he does half of it and tells you he completed it all. I’d go to his teacher and principal and have him get an Agenda book and the teacher writes all of the homework/assignments scheduled for that night. I guess he’s just bored..and needs challenging work.

]]> http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/comment-page-1/#comment-7313 dancercu Tue, 02 Mar 2010 00:11:36 +0000 http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/#comment-7313 I am 10 there is a boy like that in my class but I'm smarter than him LOL The main thing is: he thinks that being technically "smart" is the best and only way to succeed in school. However, it is not. Is he aware of the big deal about college applications? I think that you need to sit him down and tell him that he will never be smart if he keeps slacking off. It might seem a little harsh, so ease the blow by telling him that you will help him. I would not suggest spanking him any more, just tell him to go in his to do his homework and don't let him out. Make him show you his work. If this does not work, ground him from everythingat once. The top priority for him should be his homework. Hope this helps! And good luck! Please e-mail me with results. I am 10 there is a boy like that in my class but I’m smarter than him LOL
The main thing is: he thinks that being technically “smart” is the best and only way to succeed in school. However, it is not. Is he aware of the big deal about college applications? I think that you need to sit him down and tell him that he will never be smart if he keeps slacking off. It might seem a little harsh, so ease the blow by telling him that you will help him. I would not suggest spanking him any more, just tell him to go in his to do his homework and don’t let him out. Make him show you his work. If this does not work, ground him from everythingat once. The top priority for him should be his homework. Hope this helps! And good luck! Please e-mail me with results.

]]> http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/comment-page-1/#comment-7312 Twilight Brigade Mon, 01 Mar 2010 21:13:16 +0000 http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/#comment-7312 talk to the school, people who are gifted and find work too easy tend to be the class clown because they are not challenged with the given work talk to the school, people who are gifted and find work too easy tend to be the class clown because they are not challenged with the given work

]]> http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/comment-page-1/#comment-7311 hobnob Mon, 01 Mar 2010 20:46:21 +0000 http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/#comment-7311 you shouldnt be sending to school they will ruin his life and he will hate you try home schooling him then at least you can take the credit for your fu*ked up son. you shouldnt be sending to school they will ruin his life and he will hate you try home schooling him then at least you can take the credit for your fu*ked up son.

]]> http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/comment-page-1/#comment-7310 serendip Mon, 01 Mar 2010 17:07:41 +0000 http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/#comment-7310 Meet with your childs teacher, principal and G.A.T.E advisors and work out an action plan. Your son needs help, he is not trying to be naughty, he's just bored. I know you probably know that already but you need to make sure all of your sons other mentors know that too. Good luck! Meet with your childs teacher, principal and G.A.T.E advisors and work out an action plan. Your son needs help, he is not trying to be naughty, he’s just bored. I know you probably know that already but you need to make sure all of your sons other mentors know that too.
Good luck!

]]> http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/comment-page-1/#comment-7309 yodakelb Mon, 01 Mar 2010 15:18:35 +0000 http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/#comment-7309 maybe you could enroll him in a learning center like sylvan. that way, he will be forced to do his work and care about school. does he do a sport? sports can promote values like teamwork. if he sees the value of doing a sport or being on a team it might encourage him to focus on school more. maybe you could enroll him in a learning center like sylvan. that way, he will be forced to do his work and care about school.
does he do a sport? sports can promote values like teamwork. if he sees the value of doing a sport or being on a team it might encourage him to focus on school more.

]]> http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/comment-page-1/#comment-7308 andre61 Mon, 01 Mar 2010 12:26:16 +0000 http://www.kindergartenreadinghelp.com/i-am-fed-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-10-year-old/#comment-7308 its a long process but will prove useful.You need to gear yourselves for taking the approach of making sure you praise the work that has been done rather than scorn because it has not been completed.Remember five praises to each criticism. Try this for two weeks. Good luck and thankfully you don't have a spiteful child just a naughty one. its a long process but will prove useful.You need to gear yourselves for taking the approach of making sure you praise the work that has been done rather than scorn because it has not been completed.Remember five praises to each criticism. Try this for two weeks. Good luck and thankfully you don’t have a spiteful child just a naughty one.

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